Guest Post: Shanni Liang, Therapist For Dating and Relationship Issues In NYC
Who are you?
Hi my name is Shanni, I am a licensed clinical social worker, and psychotherapist that sees people for dating and relationship problems in NY and NJ.
Why are you blogging on Yuliya's Website?
I thought it would be fun to collaborate and crossblog to make it more interesting. I first met Yuliya in 2016 when I started my job in a suicide hotline call center. I started at 6 am, and Yuliya started at 7 am. Yuliya has a warm, friendly, and kind heart, and I look forward to seeing her every morning. We both eventually left and crossed paths again when I started my private practice in 2021.
What is dating like in NYC?
Dating in NYC is like trying to win the lottery; the chances are slim, but you have to keep buying a ticket to even have a chance. The dating apps are meant to keep you single longer and make money by charging a premium. It's much easier for men than women in the NYC dating scene.
What makes you different from other therapists?
In my free time, I research and study the dating scene in NYC so I can stay relevant. What’s very interesting right now is there’s a big market for matchmaking and dating coaches because people are getting out of dating apps and want to meet people in real life. I use my trauma, relational and insight oriented skills to help you see patterns of self sabotage and reflect what’s holding you back from getting the love you want. Think of it as a pre-game party, you have to get yourself ready to date, so when the right person comes along you would know they are the right person. I also have a long training and understanding of trauma, and what I learn is that the apple doesn’t fall too far from the tree. We end up repeating and dating the same guy, same girl that is emotionally unavailable. I will help you figure out why and stop the repetition. One client once told me, after the big breakup, she kept repeating the same story to different friends and “reading the same book in hopes of a different ending.” I would help direct you to find a different book with a better ending.
Do you take insurance? Why do you charge so effin’ much?
I don’t take insurance, sorry! Therapists have a limited capacity of how many clients we can see before we get burnt out and we have big overhead expenses (office rent, supervision, training, marketing, etc). Our mental health system is broken, but got even worse after the pandemic, and to keep providing quality care I do not take insurance. However, most of my clients do file for out of network reimbursements (you can read more in my website frequently asked questions) and end up paying $50 or less.
About the Author
Shanni Liang, Therapist For Dating and Relationship Issues In NYC
Shanni Liang, LCSW, is an Asian American therapist and the founder of Therapy with Shanni. She is dedicated to empowering deep thinkers, overachievers, and rebels to find love in dating and relationships, take up space, and achieve balance in their careers. As a recovered perfectionist, Shanni specializes in relational dynamics, career fulfillment, and trauma processing. Her extensive clinical background spans diverse settings, including crisis counseling, school social work, and various mental health clinics. Connect with her for flexible, personalized therapy.
